Sunday, August 9, 2009

HEAL YOUR BROKEN HEART


  1. It's okay to grieve for a time. Seek support from your friends and family as you come to terms with the changes in your life.
  2. Don't look at past relationships as failures, but rather as opportunities to learn and improve your relationship skills.
  3. Don't worry that you're not in a relationship. Your value comes from who you are, not who you're with.
  4. You don't have to be a recluse just because you aren't a couple. Treat yourself to an evening out doing something you enjoy. Take along a friend if it's not a solo activity.
  5. Treat yourself to a special gift now and then. You are a special person and you deserve it.
  6. There's more to life than romantic love. Take this opportunity to nurture your friends, family and self.
  7. Take some time to reevaluate what you need in a relationship. Have you been choosing partners who are not capable of a loving and mature relationship?
  8. Be willing to take another chance on love. Like they say, you can't win if you don't play.
  9. Be a friend to yourself. If you care about yourself, the odds are better you will attract those you care about you too.
  10. If you're finding it hard to let go of a relationship, you may need to seek counseling. An obsessive need to be with someone who no longer wants a relationship may be a sign of love addiction.
  11. Avoid jumping into a rebound relationship. Take some time to work through all the issues from your previous one.
  12. Don't try to get revenge. This will only slow your progress in healing from the hurt.
  13. Forgive yourself. You can't change the past, but you can learn from your mistakes and not repeat them.
  14. Forgive your partner. This doesn't mean that you are saying what happened is okay. What it means is cutting your losses and not investing any more time in something that hurts you.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

How to Win Back Love Even in the Most Hopeless Situation

Here, we will talk about how to win back love after the breakup, even in the seemingly hopeless situations. These tips should help you make the most important first steps towards getting back into your ex lover's life and give you more ideas what to do next.

How to Win Back Love When Your Ex Avoids You

Perhaps, your relationship ended in an ugly way, causing a lot of distress to both of you. In such a situation, hurt and anger can stay inside for long, making ex partners cut all contact with each other. Well, in case the breakup has happened recently, this is the right way to bring your thoughts into order and recover from the initial pain.

To break the ice after a period of withdrawal, it is wise to wait for a good occasion. Valentine's Day, your ex's birthday and your relationship's anniversary are the best chances to let your ex know you miss them and wish things were different. If you choose to send a card, keep your message short but meaningful. If you intend to meet your ex lover in person, keep your visit short and respectfully distant. In both cases, be careful not to appear desperate, pushy or tactless.

How to Win Back Love When Your Ex Is Dating Somebody Else

No matter how gorgeous your ex's new date could be, do not let yourself feel inferior or insecure. Try not to focus on comparisons, but rather work on building up new lines of communication with your ex. Stay friendly, positive and polite. Do not let them see you feel jealous about their new relationship and never criticize their new date. In fact, avoid bringing the person into your conversations at all. Instead, remind your ex about fun times you both shared and keep your meetings light and filled with positive energy. And yes - always look your best!

How to Win Back Love If You Have Been Dumped Second Time Around

If after the breakup you already had one failed attempt to get back with your ex, it puts you in a really tough situation. But there is still hope. Most probably, your approach was wrong. Some people think saying sorry is enough to make their ex to come back. Some get too pushy and impose themselves on their ex, when they should be doing just the opposite. The others are just not ready to change themselves in order to change the situation.

If you want to learn how to win back love, you need to learn some universal methods of making up as well as plan your strategy thoroughly. Remember that there are no quick and easy fixes for the problem, which must be quite serious if you got rejected twice. One mistake - and you can lose your last chance of reuniting with the love of your life.

In any of the above situations it is wise to take things slow and work on improving the factors that broke up your relationship. Seeking advice on how to win back love can bring fresh ideas as well.

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